1860 Etiquette

There are alot of etiquette rules so I have broken them down to make them easier to read

General Rules for Both Ladies and Gentlemen

The true aim of politeness, is to make those with whom you associate as well satisfied with themselves as possible. ...you do whatever you can to accommodate their feelings and wishes in social situations

Learn to govern yourself with patience and gentility.

Never speak or act in anger, Learn to speak in a gentile voice.

Courtesy requires the return of all civil greetings

When meeting at a street crossing, gentleman should make way for a lady. A younger person for an elder

While in a public place. No gentleman should make comments about a lady

In the evening, or when ever safety requires, a gentleman should always give a lady his arm.

A lady will not be rude, or dress in the way as to attract attention or remarks.

Avoid the disgusting habit of spitting.

Never scratch you head, pick your teeth, clean your nails or, worse of all, pick your nose in public; all of these things are disgusting.

In private, watch your thoughts; in your family, watch your temper; in society, watch your tongue.

A loud voice is both disagreeable and vulgar. Remember that all "slang" is vulgar.

Never leave your friend abruptly to see another person without asking to excuse your departure.

If, when on your way to fulfill an engagement, a friend stops you on the street, you may, without committing any breach of etiquette, tell him of your appointment, and release yourself from a long talk, but do so in a courteous manner, expressing regret for the necessity.

If a lady addresses an inquiry to a gentleman on the street, he will lift his hat as he replies. If he cannot give the information required, he will express his regrets.

A man to a woman - introduce the lady first -" Mrs.____ or Miss ____ , permit me to present you to Mr. ____."
When one lady is married, and the other single, present the single lady to the matron "Miss _____, allow me to introduce you to Mrs. _______."

Always introduce a person with their title if they have one.
When introducing any of the members of your own family, mention the name in an audible tone. It is not considered sufficient to say ‘My father,' ‘My mother,' ‘My sister,' or ‘My brother.' But say, ‘My father, Mr. Stanley,' ....

It is best to be explicit in all these things, for there may be more than one surname in the family. The eldest daughter should be introduced by her surname only, as ‘Miss Sherwood,' while her younger sisters, as ‘Miss Maud Sherwood,' ‘Miss Mary Sherwood.",

It is neither necessary nor desirable to introduce all your acquaintances to one another. If a gentleman is walking with a friend and meets another -- the same rule applies to ladies -- it is not necessary to introduce them to each other.

Two gentlemen calling upon another on a matter of business introduce each other. Introductions do not involve the necessity of shaking hands. No gentleman should offer to shake hands with a lady; if she desires to do so, she can readily express it.

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